Sounds to me like therapy specially sex therapy from an unattractive experience professional and or hypnotism like I mentioned (it worked for a friend for smoking not sure about sex addiction tho).
i was in your shoes, the guilt, seing the innocent naive smile looking at you, giving you her entire world, knowing she has no clue for the dark escapades you/we have had under her nose. It’s an odd place to be mentally. I learned to cope in the ways I mentioned above. Keep us posted how it works out for you brother.
i was in your shoes, the guilt, seing the innocent naive smile looking at you, giving you her entire world, knowing she has no clue for the dark escapades you/we have had under her nose. It’s an odd place to be mentally. I learned to cope in the ways I mentioned above. Keep us posted how it works out for you brother.
I failed to answer your early question about re-marrying and finding someone equally as sexual as me. I did. The sex with her is incredible, the most intimate and personal of anyone I’ve ever been with. She’s the only woman that it’s not just fucking or sex… she is the only woman I have truly ever loved and it is especially evident when we are intimate. She’s extremely sexually open and exciting but as is to be expected, the frequency dies down a bit the longer you’re together and the honeymoon phase ends. It’s unreasonable to expect your partner to want sex multiple times a day 7 days a week for eternity. My sex life with her is still far above average in frequency, just I have an insatiable appetite for sex. She is everything that I want and more than I deserve… I truly want to curtail my sexual indiscretions so that I can be the man she believes me to be and that she deserves, and the man I want to be as well. I don’t know that man right now.
I had to laugh when you suggested seeking out an unattractive sex addiction therapist. In my search for one I’ve had to slap myself a few times because I was most interested in contacting the most attractive therapists. I was even trying to convince myself that being attracted to the therapist could be a good thing if she’s able to help me navigate and control the temptations, I figured if I could overcome the urge to want to fuck the therapist it would be a good first step smh. In actuality it would probably sabotage any potential progress.
Really appreciate your support. I hope that I can free myself of this as you have done for the most part. If I were to be able to limit myself to a few encounters annually that would be tremendous. I just feel that I need to stop entirely as I fear I’d be more like the recovering alcoholic that decides just one drink won’t be a problem.