How do you guys stop?

[BootyHunter2020]

Sounds to me like therapy specially sex therapy from an unattractive experience professional and or hypnotism like I mentioned (it worked for a friend for smoking not sure about sex addiction tho).

i was in your shoes, the guilt, seing the innocent naive smile looking at you, giving you her entire world, knowing she has no clue for the dark escapades you/we have had under her nose. It’s an odd place to be mentally. I learned to cope in the ways I mentioned above. Keep us posted how it works out for you brother.

That’s exactly it! Her trust and love of me and her complete naivety to the demon inside of me. Knowing that she deserves much more than what I have been able to give to her because of this dark side of me. Mostly, not being able to control myself in these situations. Having the same thoughts circling through my mind each and every time I have the urge (which has been frequent as of late) but still being unable to resist acting on it. Indeed a fucked up place to be mentally.

I failed to answer your early question about re-marrying and finding someone equally as sexual as me. I did. The sex with her is incredible, the most intimate and personal of anyone I’ve ever been with. She’s the only woman that it’s not just fucking or sex… she is the only woman I have truly ever loved and it is especially evident when we are intimate. She’s extremely sexually open and exciting but as is to be expected, the frequency dies down a bit the longer you’re together and the honeymoon phase ends. It’s unreasonable to expect your partner to want sex multiple times a day 7 days a week for eternity. My sex life with her is still far above average in frequency, just I have an insatiable appetite for sex. She is everything that I want and more than I deserve… I truly want to curtail my sexual indiscretions so that I can be the man she believes me to be and that she deserves, and the man I want to be as well. I don’t know that man right now.

I had to laugh when you suggested seeking out an unattractive sex addiction therapist. In my search for one I’ve had to slap myself a few times because I was most interested in contacting the most attractive therapists. I was even trying to convince myself that being attracted to the therapist could be a good thing if she’s able to help me navigate and control the temptations, I figured if I could overcome the urge to want to fuck the therapist it would be a good first step smh. In actuality it would probably sabotage any potential progress.

Really appreciate your support. I hope that I can free myself of this as you have done for the most part. If I were to be able to limit myself to a few encounters annually that would be tremendous. I just feel that I need to stop entirely as I fear I’d be more like the recovering alcoholic that decides just one drink won’t be a problem.

 

[BootyHunter2020]

So much I can say regarding this topic, so I will be blunt and to the point. STOP being a pussy and embrace it. You have a gift to have such a strong desire, all of these insatiable women that desire you, and your whining about it? You poor thing, must be terrible to be so afflicted with such a curse.

As I have drifted into my golden years I certainly have slowed down, for lots of reasons. The desire is always there, however the machine parts just don't work as well as they use to. Sure I can take a pill and prop myself up anytime I want, but at this point do I really want it that bad anymore? Its the desire that flames the the urge and the subsequent hunt/deed. As a man or men, I don't think the need to hunt ever subsides, but sometimes the body can't physically do the hunt anymore. Trust me when I say, you don't want to look back with any regrets. I regret the breaks I have taken in this hobby over the last 30+ years, looking back now as I have slowed to a snails pace. I want that action almost daily, but I retreat due to the lack of having the ability to perform at a high level like I have in the past.

I guess what I am trying to say is, like @out of control said, go with the flow. Don't look at it like its a disease, pretend your an athlete in your fucking prime. We all slow down eventually, some sooner than others. Every time I pushed pause on this hobby, I came roaring back with a swollen sack and would go through women sometimes 2-3 different ones a day, civilian, P4P, AMPS, anything and everything. Don't let the guilt consume you, consume the guilt and fuck more. When its time to retire and you slow down, then you can have a shit happy grin on your face reliving your escapades and not regretting being a pussy and whining about it.

I regret the times I have stopped and re-started, wish I had that time back now. As I look down at my cock, I say "Dick, why aren't you as strong as you were 5 years ago?" You know what he says back? Nothing!

So fuck until your dick falls off homie, it aint easy getting old and gray.

I appreciate the response, I do. Everyone’s viewpoint is different in this regard. When I was a few years younger, casually dating and slaying pussy left and right, it was magnificent. I don’t regret any of it even though my sexual affairs cost me some decent relationships. I don’t feel that same way anymore which is part of why I know how much my fiancee means to me.

In the past I had absolutely zero care or concern as to being caught or losing whatever relationship I was in if I were caught cheating and with that I was enjoying every experience to the fullest.

Now it’s different… much different. Yes busting a nut is always a fantastic feeling and fucking different women (civilians or pros), or getting a happy ending after a massage feels great in the moment. Afterwards though I’m immediately guilt stricken and sick that I’ve betrayed her trust in me. None of these women with who I have had these indiscretions with mean what she does to me. They’re also not going to be at my side for better or worse, when I’m sick, or when I’m dealing with life stresses. My fiancee has seen me at my absolute worst (not including this shit, so maybe not entirely true). I’m not making life memories with these random women outside of a sexual experience (which I know in some sense is to be considered life experience nonetheless). At the end of the day most of them are a blur of bodies that I’ve used to fulfill a compulsive desire and mean as little to me as I do to them. I want to be free of these desires and I feel trapped by them so that’s where I’m at brother.
I’m sure it also depends on your level with this stuff. I get completely overtaken by it and go on binges and the entire time I’m stressed to the nines because I truly don’t want to be doing it but I do anyway.

 

[Stockbroker]

I think that’s what youngins call ‘post nut clarity’

 

[mugi]

So much I can say regarding this topic, so I will be blunt and to the point. STOP being a pussy and embrace it. You have a gift to have such a strong desire, all of these insatiable women that desire you, and your whining about it? You poor thing, must be terrible to be so afflicted with such a curse.

As I have drifted into my golden years I certainly have slowed down, for lots of reasons. The desire is always there, however the machine parts just don't work as well as they use to. Sure I can take a pill and prop myself up anytime I want, but at this point do I really want it that bad anymore? Its the desire that flames the the urge and the subsequent hunt/deed. As a man or men, I don't think the need to hunt ever subsides, but sometimes the body can't physically do the hunt anymore. Trust me when I say, you don't want to look back with any regrets. I regret the breaks I have taken in this hobby over the last 30+ years, looking back now as I have slowed to a snails pace. I want that action almost daily, but I retreat due to the lack of having the ability to perform at a high level like I have in the past.

I guess what I am trying to say is, like @out of control said, go with the flow. Don't look at it like its a disease, pretend your an athlete in your fucking prime. We all slow down eventually, some sooner than others. Every time I pushed pause on this hobby, I came roaring back with a swollen sack and would go through women sometimes 2-3 different ones a day, civilian, P4P, AMPS, anything and everything. Don't let the guilt consume you, consume the guilt and fuck more. When its time to retire and you slow down, then you can have a shit happy grin on your face reliving your escapades and not regretting being a pussy and whining about it.

I regret the times I have stopped and re-started, wish I had that time back now. As I look down at my cock, I say "Dick, why aren't you as strong as you were 5 years ago?" You know what he says back? Nothing!

So fuck until your dick falls off homie, it aint easy getting old and gray.

“I regret the times I have stopped and re-started, wish I had that time back now. As I look down at my cock, I say "Dick, why aren't you as strong as you were 5 years ago?" You know what he says back? Nothing!”

Hang in there @NINE-LIVES!!! Start a little exercise program, eat right, and you’ll reinvent yourself as a “silver cat”

 

[JimmyJam77]

I’ll tell you how. Start financially taking care of your aging mother and watch all your discretionary play money go out the window. Hoping I can get my life back soon.

 

[billyS]

As I look down at my cock, I say "Dick, why aren't you as strong as you were 5 years ago?"

I thought that wasn't a problem with you because you take all those Chinese herbs?

 

[mugi]

I thought that wasn't a problem with you because you take all those Chinese herbs?

Yes, definitely herbs keep your libido strong. I never said otherwise. If sexual weakness occurs, you can always recover using diet, exercise and herbs, but in a very intelligent balanced way so you don’t create a problem with another bodily system.

The quote you mentioned was by another member.

However, given that herbs keep you stronger sexually, and always able to get the job done and enjoy a lady in your senior years, it can’t be compared to the intensity and power of 40 to 50 years ago.

Mother Nature instills in a young man the sexual power and stamina of a mountain goat. But, so much so, it is almost impossible to think of anything other than sex. No peace whatsoever, as women seem to be your only motive in life.